Recently I’ve been smiling more. On purpose. For a long time my smile felt really unnatural to me, but when I got married I had to basically smile for about a whole hour while the photos were being taken. It still felt unnatural, but when the photos came back I realised that they looked ok. I saw on a television programme a while back the guy who was in the house of lords, with the curly hair, who did that BBC show on the human body. Anyway he said that most people can’t consciously tell the difference between a forced smile and a real one. Case in point.
I also read something by leil lowndes on about smiling when you walk into a room, so that everyone can tell that you’re somebody. Recently I’ve been doing this, forcing a smile as I walk into a room. Especially when I go out for a coffee. I’m getting some good responses from people. Smiles anyway. But how do I tell if they are forced smiles?
Hi Leroy, it’s Leil here, author of “How to Talk to Anyone” where you read about the smile.
The way to tell if it’s a REAL smile is to check around the eyes. If there’s a little crinkle, it’s real. If not, it’s one of those fake ones. But, not to worry, fake are better than none. And, once they get to know you, they become real.
All the best to you Leroy.
Leil Lowndes
Comment by Leil Lowndes — January 14, 2008 @ 3:40 am